There seems to be a lot of “not knowing” going around, which is only a problem if people believe it is. You may feel flooded with options, spun around in circles or flung from pole to pole and back again. It’s not just you: We are at a critical juncture in the forward march we call human evolution. Quite simply, the species is moving beyond the Age of Reason. If you seek to be whole now, become accustomed to inviting your mind and your heart, your logic and your intuition, to the equation. As the Sufi proverb suggests: Pray to Allah – but first, tether your camel. When you feel that calculating and strategizing, figuring it out, creating a what-if spreadsheet in your mind, or other purely mental gyrations just aren’t cutting it any more…
…and magical thinking alone isn’t doing the trick, either – it’s time to learn to discern.
Practice conscious intolerance. Decide which people you want to spend time with, what relationship you want to invest in. Know the difference between truth and hollow flattery. Respond accordingly. Determine whether, this time, the out-and-out truth is what truly serves. Ponder whether you’re being guided or led astray. You decide. Take an extra moment. Make them wait. What does your gut tell you? What does your heart tell you? Trust your inner ability to know what’s right for you and what isn’t. Learn the difference between the ways that fear and exhiliration move through your body. The surge you feel when you run away from danger is not all that different from the surge you feel when you’re getting ready to reach the top of a mountain, birth a baby, win a race, celebrate an inner victory. Learn the difference. If it isn’t YES!, it’s probably no.
Excerpted from Words of Wisdom for Women, available as a Barnes & Noble bargain book via the right-hand sidebar — and also in its original incarnation, 365 Words of Well-Being for Women (McGraw-Hill/Contemporary), available here at amazon and other places, too.